I’ve been sober going on twenty years, have read dozens of self help books, rejoined my church and have come to the realization that we make an incorrect assumption about parents. We assume parents are supposed to love their children. Wrong.
Most the time you are lucky if your parents don’t stick you in the fucking microwave oven or dump your ass in the lake with the family car. I certainly don’t fault God for any of this. Freewill is the ultimate gift.
I see people everyday who carry the pain of knowing not only did their parents not love them but that according to their parents that they are shit and worthless. Look at all the overweight people, the depressed people, the drug addicts and alcoholics.
Look at the people and the institutions who continue to reinforce what their parents subjected them to. Take your pick but let start with the churches and the fundees followed by the public schools and whatever low paying careers or jobs they have settled for.
I finally see. I put the pain killers down long enough to hear the Holy Spirit. We are not servants but family. We are good enough and we dont have to prove ourselves.